tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post3011475172725000868..comments2024-01-12T00:48:48.031-06:00Comments on Go Teen Writers: How do you deal with failure?Stephanie Morrillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-80205298885466737342017-06-29T10:17:20.407-05:002017-06-29T10:17:20.407-05:00Punching something sounds therapeutic. Have to rem...Punching something sounds therapeutic. Have to remember that. :)<br /><br />-AnnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-61919314708175747362017-06-29T10:15:54.904-05:002017-06-29T10:15:54.904-05:00I know I have this issue too, sometimes perfection...I know I have this issue too, sometimes perfectionism just freezes me up. We need to be kinder to ourselves. No one is perfect anyway.<br /><br />-AnnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-13734122602162519302017-06-29T10:11:55.327-05:002017-06-29T10:11:55.327-05:00Thank you both! :)
-AnnThank you both! :)<br /><br />-AnnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-75862878009152474062017-06-29T07:30:08.379-05:002017-06-29T07:30:08.379-05:00Yes, it is. Perfectionism can be a good thing, but...Yes, it is. Perfectionism can be a good thing, but a lot of times it can be the downfall of anyone who is a perfectionist. But hey, we can work through it and try again. :D <3<br /><br />iviewrites.blogspot.comIvie Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07078528126219230207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-86103542273120969532017-06-29T00:51:13.008-05:002017-06-29T00:51:13.008-05:00This. I have the same problem. If I fail, it's...This. I have the same problem. If I fail, it's because I didn't do my best, and I should have known that what I had given wasn't my best. Being a perfectionist is tough. Meaghan Rutherfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17144939103660147492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-24056381739573199372017-06-28T16:48:57.529-05:002017-06-28T16:48:57.529-05:00Define failure, to start with? Being rejected isn&...Define failure, to start with? Being rejected isn't failing if it turns out that in the long run that publishing house wouldn't have worked for you. A story fizzling out isn't failure if that means you now get to concentrate on another one that you really love. <br /><br />I like what Shannon said about trying, with the possibility of failing, being like every hero we've read about. The heroes in stories almost always try something and it doesn't work, at some point. The thing is, they tried. They didn't say "it doesn't concern us" or "oh, that's too hard" or "that would be a good thing to do if I could, but there's always the chance I can't". Not trying is the true failure. <br /><br />Which means that on days where you know you can work, and you should work, and you choose to be lazy instead, those are real failures. Which is kind of eye-opening --- instead of just being "wasted time", we can call it "a failed day", and I think that would be a motivation to have fewer of those. (In lazy days I'm not counting legitimate days of rest.) (Sez I, coming off one of those lazy days and determining to amend my life by finishing the Fellowship of the Ring this evening.) <br /><br />https://ofdreamsandswords.wordpress.comSophia Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10393680730064003675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-10972116967904462062017-06-28T13:57:59.777-05:002017-06-28T13:57:59.777-05:00i usually crash and burn a story idea before anyon...i usually crash and burn a story idea before anyone can read it, so usually i jump up and down with joy (as odd as it sounds, it works)Batfannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-66678608219244918092017-06-28T13:16:07.036-05:002017-06-28T13:16:07.036-05:00I usually allow myself to wallow for a bit, then m...I usually allow myself to wallow for a bit, then maybe I go to the gym and hit a punching bag or do some yoga, and then I wake up the next morning, make some coffee, try to figure out where it all went wrong, and fix it. Sometimes the process is more messy, but that's how I usually do it. <br />Bless you guys for this post. I needed it today, and Shannon's words really struck a chord with me. I think we all need to be okay with failing more. <3Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00402269932600706940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-42207155120045885662017-06-28T13:16:03.095-05:002017-06-28T13:16:03.095-05:00I love seeing your pictures! What lucky students t...I love seeing your pictures! What lucky students to have you fabulous ladies as teachers!Stephanie Morrillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-82503807224614117502017-06-28T11:44:34.537-05:002017-06-28T11:44:34.537-05:00I think I may have to use that acronym. You're...I think I may have to use that acronym. You're completely right, Maggie. By not trying, you'll definitely never get anywhere, but failure leads to something learned. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Work input equals work output. God bless you! :)<br /><br />iviewrites.blogspot.comIvie Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07078528126219230207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-7190914001176696662017-06-28T11:42:46.118-05:002017-06-28T11:42:46.118-05:00Nothing is every wrong with ice cream. Especially ...Nothing is every wrong with ice cream. Especially chocolate ice cream. :)<br /><br />iviewrites.blogspot.comIvie Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07078528126219230207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-7969648398425179522017-06-28T11:42:14.961-05:002017-06-28T11:42:14.961-05:00Ann, this is so well said. Very beautiful. And you...Ann, this is so well said. Very beautiful. And you're right. Quitting is failure. God bless you!<br /><br />iviewrites.blogspot.comIvie Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07078528126219230207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-29170806975846502562017-06-28T11:41:28.267-05:002017-06-28T11:41:28.267-05:00I don't handle failure well. I tend to be the ...I don't handle failure well. I tend to be the type of person who wants to get it right the first time. I want to be perfect at it the first time. It isn't a healthy mindset, that's for sure. It can only lead to a vicious cycle of feeling like a failure and giving up.<br /><br />But, turning it around, looking at failure as a reason try harder, is something I want to work on. I'm not always going to get it right. I put way too much pressure on myself. <br /><br />Like Ann said above, quitting is the only way to fail.<br /><br />God bless y'all.<br /><br />iviewrites.blogspot.comIvie Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07078528126219230207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-50616702300386956962017-06-28T09:26:08.325-05:002017-06-28T09:26:08.325-05:00I do this too. Sort of waiting for my emotions to ...I do this too. Sort of waiting for my emotions to come back on line, like restarting a computer. And ice cream is always a plus. ;-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-53333518020063269292017-06-28T09:25:17.134-05:002017-06-28T09:25:17.134-05:00*quitting was the only way I could fail* --Love th...*quitting was the only way I could fail* --Love this. You are brilliant, Ann! :-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-40689512901422754222017-06-28T09:24:36.338-05:002017-06-28T09:24:36.338-05:00Love that, Maggie! <3 Yours is good too, Ann. I...Love that, Maggie! <3 Yours is good too, Ann. I love both of your glass-half-full outlooks.Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-4692383014324552332017-06-28T09:21:44.637-05:002017-06-28T09:21:44.637-05:00Normally I take a break, start something new (it&#...Normally I take a break, start something new (it' a serious problem), and go get some ice cream. Distractions tend to be the best thing for me. <br /><br />thefloridsword.blogspot.comR.F. Gammonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03134854415617023273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-27270829092947737992017-06-28T08:40:40.594-05:002017-06-28T08:40:40.594-05:00Cool. I love that acronym! It also works as Fiftie...Cool. I love that acronym! It also works as Fiftieth Attempt In Learning, because I tend to need lots of room for mistakes. :p<br />Thanks for sharing.<br /><br />-AnnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-68090228453561798242017-06-28T08:36:20.592-05:002017-06-28T08:36:20.592-05:00I used to struggle as any sort of rejection, or fe...I used to struggle as any sort of rejection, or feeling of falling short would drag me down for weeks. It got to the point I wanted to give up writing completely. Maybe I just wasn't cut out for it.<br /><br />Then one day I realized quitting was the only way I could fail. Rejection, not placing in a contest; silence during query stages, they were all stepping stones--an opportunity to push past disappointment and move forward. Having a heavy dose of stubbornness, rejection now tends to fire up my resolve to improve my writing, which is a good thing.<br /><br />Although I'd love to learn how to deal with success now. Just to be well-rounded. :)<br /><br />-Ann<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-64972925342129263102017-06-28T08:16:04.236-05:002017-06-28T08:16:04.236-05:00I just got back from my county 4-H fair, so I'...I just got back from my county 4-H fair, so I'm just now with it. Fair is tiring!<br />In school this year I learned something that goes with what Mrs. Dittemore said. It's an acronym, FAIL. Which means: <br />First<br />Attempt<br />In<br />Learning<br />I think this is a great acronym because it is so right. If you don't take risks, if you don't push harder, you won't get there, but if you give up and don't try, you will certainly not get there. Maggienoreply@blogger.com