tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post4964736640363798827..comments2024-01-12T00:48:48.031-06:00Comments on Go Teen Writers: The Five Stages of GriefStephanie Morrillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-24868254068071545242014-10-24T08:00:49.576-05:002014-10-24T08:00:49.576-05:00I feel like my character is just constantly feelin...I feel like my character is just constantly feeling sorry for herself, and it gets on my nerves, cause she won't stop. That's the hard part for me. How do I show her grief without making the reader sick of her? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-15145342298434586732012-05-31T00:27:43.090-05:002012-05-31T00:27:43.090-05:00I think it would just be very difficult to write a...I think it would just be very difficult to write all five stages lol.Jazmine~https://www.blogger.com/profile/06246960020080246030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-32391490656561466842012-05-29T22:25:22.315-05:002012-05-29T22:25:22.315-05:00Thanks so much! I have a feeling I will be using ...Thanks so much! I have a feeling I will be using this a lot with my work in progress. It's a story about a highly athletic girl that loses the use of her legs in a car accident. I also have never experienced a whole lot of grief, so it is hard for me to write about it. This will really help, though!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-61832871433835664292012-05-29T14:16:07.018-05:002012-05-29T14:16:07.018-05:00Fabulous information! One of the characters in my ...Fabulous information! One of the characters in my WIP is terminally ill, and so I could see this coming in useful as I'm rewriting. ;) Thanks so much!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-13498535668757152932012-05-29T00:19:53.132-05:002012-05-29T00:19:53.132-05:00I love White Collar!
Thank you for the great post...I love White Collar!<br /><br />Thank you for the great post. In my WIP I've got fully planned out scenes where I know some of my characters die, but the events directly afterwards are less clear. This has really given me some food for thought about how my different characters will react differently to the death. Thank you!Elizabethhttp://procrastinatingpeople.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-40899665744834195092012-05-28T18:04:45.893-05:002012-05-28T18:04:45.893-05:00Good point! When you're in denial, it is like ...Good point! When you're in denial, it is like the whole thing might not be happening at all. Like you might wake up and find that you've been having a bad dream.Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-25648703221839903902012-05-28T18:03:07.473-05:002012-05-28T18:03:07.473-05:00It varies for each person. So you'd want to ta...It varies for each person. So you'd want to take a close look at your character and think about his traits and how those, combined with the grief stages, will cause him to act. And some of it might be double when you consider that he lost two people at the same time. Ouch.Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-30090430513682760772012-05-28T18:01:46.541-05:002012-05-28T18:01:46.541-05:00You're welcome, Jessica!
:-)You're welcome, Jessica!<br />:-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-4631506935068580372012-05-28T18:01:35.311-05:002012-05-28T18:01:35.311-05:00LOL! The anger stage forever could get troublesome...LOL! The anger stage forever could get troublesome if ALL the characters were stuck there. But I think it could really work for one character to be stuck there.<br /><br />Glad you have some other options to consider now though. :-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-49779179061670835832012-05-28T18:00:33.354-05:002012-05-28T18:00:33.354-05:00You're right, Rachelle. It is depressing. But ...You're right, Rachelle. It is depressing. But I'm glad to know that it helped. And it's always fun when a new character strides into your life. :-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-42373987819599552392012-05-28T17:59:25.740-05:002012-05-28T17:59:25.740-05:00You're welcome, Emii! Glad it helped. :-)You're welcome, Emii! Glad it helped. :-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-50192061471567463532012-05-26T13:41:38.628-05:002012-05-26T13:41:38.628-05:00Thank you for explaining this! I have researched i...Thank you for explaining this! I have researched it before, but it is nice to see again. <br /><br />One thing I might have to add: I like to see those first few moments of grief, like when someone might first hear that their house has burned down, as "This can't be happening!" thoughts as the early stages of denial. Nothing sinks in for a couple minutes, or longer, and the situation doesn't seem real.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-97332874576413002012-05-25T22:53:07.133-05:002012-05-25T22:53:07.133-05:00Thank you, this is so helpful! I'm starting a ...Thank you, this is so helpful! I'm starting a WIP where my MC has lost both a father and a best friend. Is there any particular amount of time each stage takes? Or does it vary from person to person?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-57836570942582097272012-05-25T20:12:34.735-05:002012-05-25T20:12:34.735-05:00Thank you for the post, Jill! It was really helpfu...Thank you for the post, Jill! It was really helpful.Jessica Zellinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-45681566378645641082012-05-25T20:02:04.949-05:002012-05-25T20:02:04.949-05:00I've had quite a bit of greif in my life, so i...I've had quite a bit of greif in my life, so it's easy for me to write about the stages I went through, but I know I dont react like anyone else I know. I'm different.Maddie Morrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10881137664211550244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-77870409648347388642012-05-25T19:56:35.878-05:002012-05-25T19:56:35.878-05:00Great post! It was really helpful, since my charac...Great post! It was really helpful, since my characters are usually in the anger stage- forever. That's it. So this should help me work around some other options.Maddie Morrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10881137664211550244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-1656584860570800222012-05-25T19:54:14.300-05:002012-05-25T19:54:14.300-05:00This is a depressing topic, but one needed. After ...This is a depressing topic, but one needed. After all, going through grief is something that affects our characters, so we need to know what they're dealing with. In fact, this post can be helpful when we're trying to help friends who have lost loved ones, too.<br /><br />Today a character strode onto the pages of my current WIP and started a seedling of an idea for another novel...and he just lost a dear friend. So... =) Thanks, Jill! For helping me understand him better!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06150136011032761640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-8407014684789814562012-05-25T19:31:08.516-05:002012-05-25T19:31:08.516-05:00This post is much-needed for me! I start my book w...This post is much-needed for me! I start my book when my character is in the acceptance stage (now that I know what it's called) -- mainly because I didn't know how she was supposed to feel in the other stages. But I think this will help me understand how she felt when 'it' happened. Thanks, Jill.emiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02042164350910286833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-76598885006038348462012-05-25T17:56:38.501-05:002012-05-25T17:56:38.501-05:00Thank you! I will have to work on thTa one.Thank you! I will have to work on thTa one.Kate S (4readin)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03311476103331480075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-4999000352331980932012-05-25T17:52:15.587-05:002012-05-25T17:52:15.587-05:00You're welcome, Michelle!
:-)You're welcome, Michelle!<br />:-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-90199455992442499162012-05-25T17:51:52.323-05:002012-05-25T17:51:52.323-05:00You're welcome, Rosie!
:-)You're welcome, Rosie!<br />:-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-19142346807114336542012-05-25T17:51:26.782-05:002012-05-25T17:51:26.782-05:00You're welcome, Kayla. It can be difficult to ...You're welcome, Kayla. It can be difficult to write about things we've not experienced. Be glad you haven't experienced such grief, though! You can always interview someone who has experienced a similar situation. I've interviewed a lot of people for my books to get my facts straight. Be cautious about who you ask, though. You want to ask someone who won't be hurt by talking about it.Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-78206095711268985772012-05-25T17:48:29.135-05:002012-05-25T17:48:29.135-05:00Yeah, that's true, Sarah. There would be physi...Yeah, that's true, Sarah. There would be physical results of the character's emotional state, depending on what he was telling himself or how he was behaving. With each stage of grief there are lots of ways a character might act. <br /><br />No, I've never seen White Collar, but it sounds interesting.Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-24769360250565865972012-05-25T17:45:48.867-05:002012-05-25T17:45:48.867-05:00I think it depends on how long she's a captive...I think it depends on how long she's a captive. Is the story about someone coming to rescue her? Or is the story about her new life as a slave? If it's about her new life as a slave, I think she would grieve the loss of her old life and freedom. But if the story is about her being caught for a short period of time, the full process might not play out before she is rescued. It might start, though. She might start out in complete denial, then get angry, which could get her into trouble as a slave. And she might bargain too. "My dad will pay you anything if you let me go."Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-3997142618649098772012-05-25T17:41:55.502-05:002012-05-25T17:41:55.502-05:00Glad it was helpful, Olivia.
:-)Glad it was helpful, Olivia.<br />:-)Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.com