tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post7199946676835122733..comments2024-01-12T00:48:48.031-06:00Comments on Go Teen Writers: One Thing No One Told Me About Being My Own BossStephanie Morrillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-23221716700020997942016-12-30T22:23:39.520-06:002016-12-30T22:23:39.520-06:00Oh my gosh, thank you for this post! I have such a...Oh my gosh, thank you for this post! I have such an impossibly difficult time giving myself a break and then either feeling really guilty about it or giving myself <i>too</i> long of a break and not getting anything done. I really need to work on finding a balance and this post was the kick I needed. Thank you! <3<br /><br /><br />Alexa<br />thessalexa.blogspot.com<br />verbosityreviews.comAlexa Mintahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13865586987033390255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-7248292744153854922016-12-10T00:04:59.787-06:002016-12-10T00:04:59.787-06:00I have the hardest time with taking rests and vaca...I have the hardest time with taking rests and vacations from writing. It's hard working for yourself because then you always wonder if there was something more you could have done. Something else that would have made things go faster, you know? As for keeping happy and healthy during times of stress - I'm afraid it's always going to be a work in progress. Though, lately, I've noticed going outside somewhere I won't get disturbed and praying helps a whole lot. Even taking out a pad and pen and just writing at random calms me down inside. Meaghan Rutherfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17144939103660147492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-26740234786327908722016-12-06T10:06:58.313-06:002016-12-06T10:06:58.313-06:00Kendra, that's a great point. Those mini deadl...Kendra, that's a great point. Those mini deadlines of getting something sent to a reader can really help break up a project.Stephanie Morrillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-35888409015752219792016-12-06T01:00:33.243-06:002016-12-06T01:00:33.243-06:00As an Indie Author, I have no one to answer to for...As an Indie Author, I have no one to answer to for my writing, outside of my audience, so, yes, the struggle is real. I'm not that great at it, either. Thanks for this post. I should probably copy your points down and post them on my wall as a reminder. But I've found having peers to talk to is invaluable, especially since I'm social writer. Indeed, I've found being able to send writing to Alpha and Beta readers to be one of my best forms of self-motivation. Okay, yes, it'll be months, if not years before I can publish a book that I'm working on, but if I can just get through five chapters, one part, ect, I can send it to my Alphas or Betas and I'll feel successful. Kendra E. Ardnekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03593051552921296108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-87043278847824025612016-12-05T23:03:05.025-06:002016-12-05T23:03:05.025-06:00I think you and I are in the same boat, Elizabeth....I think you and I are in the same boat, Elizabeth. Being creative just hasn't been easy for me lately, but I'm trying to make it a priority again. Good luck to you! I hope you got the step back you needed to figure things out and get into writing again.Olivianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-75342227472159570642016-12-05T22:36:00.158-06:002016-12-05T22:36:00.158-06:00I think we all go through seasons like that, Eliza...I think we all go through seasons like that, Elizabeth! Good luck getting back to work :)Stephanie Morrillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-85754057468085038822016-12-05T22:35:20.165-06:002016-12-05T22:35:20.165-06:00Shan, that question has been so meaningful to me. ...Shan, that question has been so meaningful to me. I am so grateful for our time in the car where you first brought it up!Stephanie Morrillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-20385773993578768152016-12-05T17:25:46.594-06:002016-12-05T17:25:46.594-06:00This is amazing, and just what I needed to hear. I...This is amazing, and just what I needed to hear. I'm typically a pretty rigid boss, but lately due to outside circumstances, I've been floundering, searching for motivation and finding none. I think it is time I stop "resting" and get back to writing.<br /><br />Thank you!Elizabeth Hartmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01470270879076594637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-64413065509742945302016-12-05T12:34:37.129-06:002016-12-05T12:34:37.129-06:00So many great thoughts here. And truth too. It'...So many great thoughts here. And truth too. It's not easy being your own boss--especially if you actually WANT to be the kind of worker who gets stuff done. As my own boss, I come back time and time again to that old question, "What kind of writer do I want to be?" The image of that, the goal, keeps me keeping on.Shannon Dittemorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07757781231485815876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-35660279899050434662016-12-05T12:06:49.675-06:002016-12-05T12:06:49.675-06:00YES. Those are great thoughts, Emily. I'm work...YES. Those are great thoughts, Emily. I'm working on talking to my husband and my writing friends BEFORE I work myself into a frenzy. This has taken a surprising amount of practice, but I can now tell when my thoughts are starting to spiral downward and reach out for help before I get too far.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing! That means a lot. (And I saw on your blog you're from KC too!)<br /><br />Stephanie Morrillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-85801077508846351032016-12-05T12:01:35.435-06:002016-12-05T12:01:35.435-06:00I'm such a work-in-progress on all of these, J...I'm such a work-in-progress on all of these, Jill. It's interesting to me that the stuff you need to succeed as your own boss - determination, the ability to self-motivate, tenacity, etc. - is also the same stuff that can cause me to push myself too hard and burn out.Stephanie Morrillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-6217899669001958552016-12-05T11:34:59.017-06:002016-12-05T11:34:59.017-06:00I definitely struggle with the same thing, Keturah...I definitely struggle with the same thing, Keturah. Especially with the combination of working a day job full-time. My be-your-own-boss to-do list piles up, and I feel bad about it, despite my lack of time. Letting myself rest is one of the #1 struggles I deal with. But it's so, so important. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18244189714440337043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-52949435301675445112016-12-05T11:30:53.621-06:002016-12-05T11:30:53.621-06:00This is excellent, Stephanie. I've subconsciou...This is excellent, Stephanie. I've subconsciously realized the same thing, but you put it into words very well, which I appreciate. Being your own boss is tough, and taking care of yourself mentally and emotionally is a huge part of that. <br /><br />I also think it's important to make others aware of your mental/emotional needs, so that your support group can help you meet them. This is something I really struggle with, to be honest. I don't want to seem needy. But after sharing this struggle with my husband, it's proven to be very rewarding, because now I have someone who can say, "Hey, babe. Stop working and do something fun." Or, "Do you want to talk about that blog post you're writing so you can get it done faster?" He's great at recognizing where I'm at and being an encouragement when I get run down or distracted. <br /><br />Having others around you who are aware of what you need to function creatively is a major plus. 10/10 recommend. And if you aren't married, maybe find a sibling or a close friend to share with. Just make sure to be honest and open about how your creative flow works, so that they can do their best to help you. <br /><br />Anyway, long comment. :P I'm definitely sharing this post. It was fantastic. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18244189714440337043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-81693492812159351762016-12-05T11:07:26.615-06:002016-12-05T11:07:26.615-06:00What an interesting thought, Steph. I am terrible ...What an interesting thought, Steph. I am terrible at this, probably because I'm so hard on myself. Number two is my favorite, but I need to work more on numbers three and five.Jill Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11943570354349667196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-50760587936934839832016-12-05T10:29:52.049-06:002016-12-05T10:29:52.049-06:00I'm glad it resonated, Keturah! Letting myself...I'm glad it resonated, Keturah! Letting myself rest while there are still things on my to-do list (which there always are) is something I re-learn over and over.Stephanie Morrillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128389560727867719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4024721400572472213.post-45983465720119339432016-12-05T08:32:53.636-06:002016-12-05T08:32:53.636-06:00This is really good... I'm more of the strict,...This is really good... I'm more of the strict, rigid boss that doesn't feel vacations or rewards are necessary as long as the goal is yet to be achieved. ;b lol... but then I do need breaks. Haha. So, pretty good.. especially the part about not feeling guilty when resting. Like it :D Keturah Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05041749245034077912noreply@blogger.com